In episode 8 of “Post-Modern Living with Chris The Brain,” Chris and Kait talk about how to deal with it when you make mistakes, have bad luck, or are in an unpleasant situation. They discuss the sunk cost fallacy, owning your suffering, and leaning in to the hard times. On a more cheerful note, they share their favorite Christmas shopping tips.
The episode kicks off with a discussion of the sunk cost fallacy, where the more money and time you put into something, the less likely you are to abandon it, even if it’s not working or making you miserable. Often, thinking that you’ve put too much into something to throw it away overrides your knowledge that it’s not going to get any better. However, bad stuff just happens, and it’s important to learn how to handle it when it does.
The best way to get through the hardest parts of life is to own your suffering and push through the situation fast. As examples, the hosts discuss Senator John McCain’s experience as a POW and Nelson Mandela’s jail time during apartheid in South Africa. One of the worst things we can do is avoid or ignore negative experiences; it’s crucial to know that you can do everything right and still fail. Chris and Kait mention their own experiences with divorce, business ownership, and getting kicked out of college, and talk about how it was or would have been easier if they accepted that things often don’t get better until they get worse. The good news is, we grow more as people in the hard moments than the good ones.
On a more cheerful note, the hosts share their favorite tips for Christmas shopping. Chris suggests that if you don’t know what to buy for someone, you shouldn’t buy them anything. Some good bets if you still want to buy something are practical luxuries, nice everyday carry items, things that people want but would never buy themselves, personalized gifts, nice chocolates, and books with handwritten notes in the covers. Planning ahead is always helpful, too; if you see something during the year that makes you think of someone, buy it and hold on to it for Christmas.
Good Places to Shop for Universally Loved Gifts:
- L’Occitane, where Chris goes to buy nice soaps for people
- Shinola, tons of great everyday carry stuff
- Urban EDC Supply, another good place to get everyday carry stuff
- Dollar Shave Club
- Joe’s Butcher Shop, a really great local butcher shop
- Vine and Table, puts together really nice fine cheese sets
- Godiva Chocolates
- DeBrand Chocolates
- Yankee Candle, Chris’s favorite candle store, you can get customized ones with photos
Shout Outs To:
- Apprenace, a company creating meaningful internship programs that help businesses and careers grow
- DK New Media, a digital marketing company who lets us use their podcast studio
- The Speak Easy, where DK New Media’s podcast studio is located
- Idealab, whose founder, Bill Gross, researched the number one factor of success (it’s timing)